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I wanted to make sure that Saturday was less hectic than Friday, but I didn’t mean it to be so mellow that I missed the Punishment Book meeting! But I slept in late, and then Mr. Defeu and I had some nice morning sex, and by the time I realized what was going on (i.e, that the PB meeting as not on Sunday after all), we barely made it down in time for brunch with Mija, Paul, Rad, and Miss Cassandra. (Note, I see Rad has explained that he can only be mentioned “as long as it’s glowing bordering on gushing” – so he should consider himself thus described as shining brighter than a glow-in-the-dark Jesus, and gushing in a manner that would make Niagra falls jealous!)

Then Mr. Defeu and I chilled for a while, before he got called off to help the Northern folks with some errands, and I started my prepping for my outfit for that evening. To the right, a shot taken while hanging out pre-ball with Mija, Paul, Fireman Chris and Serenity, Iris and M, and Bailey.

• Black Satin Bullet Bra
• 6-Strap Garter Belt
• Pin-Up Girl Stockings
• 50′s Rockabilly Satin Dot Halter Dress
• Satin Bolero Jacket

(I’ve linked above to a nice dress that’s like the one I’m wearing, but the one I’m wearing is special because it’s loaned to me by the delicious Pandora. Although I may tell her if she wants it back she has to come to San Francisco and wrest it from my body personally!)

The dinner part of the evening was nice – and the food wasn’t bad; better than last year’s, I felt – and I basically played musical chairs moving around the table talking to people. And a whole bunch of San Franciscans stopped by to talk to me, which was so cool – of course, it is perhaps ironic that we had to go to Vegas to meet and/or get a chance to chat! My local peeps should feel free to stay in touch with me – we talked about lots of cool ideas for spanking parties and stuff!

My only complaint was that the music got cranked to 11 while I was trying to talk to people. I was already loosing my voice from all the talking and from the smoky air (it’s weird, after living in CA, to be in a place where there is smoking allowed indoors! My throat’s just not used to that sort of thing anymore!) and since there was only a small number of people shakin’ their booties, the volume seemed disproportionately loud. I would really prefer that there be a dance floor area, and an eating/talking area, and the music kept to background-level in the latter. If I want to go dancing, I’ll go dancing whether or not the music is turned up – and if I want to talk, having to shout over music just makes me cranky.

This increased volume encouraged most of my friends it was time to move on to suite parties Read the rest of this entry »

It’s going to be very hard to collect the memories of the wonderful Shadowlane Thursday through Monday, because there are A.) too many good ones, and B.) it’s all tending to melt together into a rosy-glowing blur of remembrance. Still, let’s see what we can do….

We arrived so late Wednesday night as to more accurately be Thursday morning. Thursday was spent chilling out and enjoying the fact that we were on holiday, whilst watching the spankos trickle in to the Suncoast Casino and Spanko Central. That evening involved hanging out with friends in this perfect combination of pre-party anticipation, happiness to see each other again, and relief to have a night of mellow chat that didn’t involve shouting over music before it all started up. If you’re going to SL and you can afford it time and/or money-wise, I really recommend this option.

That night, Mr. Defeu, obviously inspired by the companionship and discussion, bent me over his lap for a spanking, and then over the end of the bed for a taste of the belt. (Yummy, would be the taste! I really do love that belt.) Then a thank-you blowjob for him!

Friday day was a bit chaotic, as everyone was trying to get everything into place – people having suite parties were buying foods and beverages, last minute wardrobe alterations were taking place, etc. I was lucky enough to go along for the ride with Lucy Mclean and Bailey as they shopped at the Bettie Page store. It’s not every lucky girl who has able to to hang out with those two whilst they stripped down in a small room! I think I failed utterly at trying not to be lecherous.

I really could have used a disco nap when I got back, but it was time to start getting ready, myself! Here are some links for items from my outfit that evening:

• Bettie Page “Accountant” Dress
• Knee Length Petticoat
• Elegant Moments Sheer thigh-hi
• High Heel Mary Jane

I got lots of compliments! (Thank you to all who took a moment to say a kind word.) Although once the Northern Girls came in, they got pretty much all the attention for the rest of the night!

I got to catch up with friends, and meet lots of lovely people. It was very intense for me, socially, but that’s how that sort of thing always is for me. When I started doing this sort of thing in college (i.e. – hanging out in large groups of people I mostly didn’t know) it was because I was working at ManRay. And what I did there was to arrive before the club opened and get ready with my friends and fellow performers, and then spend all my time with them, much of it down in the green room. Then I would perform, which would be my real act of social bravery for the evening, but it would only last about 10 minutes! Or, if I was go-go dancing, I’d be up on a block, and sure people would be looking at me, but I didn’t actually really talk to them! After that was done, I’d be high on performance endorphins, and social interaction would seem so much less scary than being up on stage, that I’d simply not care so much about it. So, oddly, just walking around talking to people is actually harder for me, than getting up onstage in small amounts of clothing and doing kinky things in front of an audience!

Fireman Chris and Mr. Defeu and I went to a suite party after the vendors fair, and I finally got to formally meet Richard Windsor, which was wonderful and I hope to hang out with him again, but after a while I had to admit I was flagging, and so we went back to our room and snuggled into bed. Sleep was not immediately an option, as we happened to be placed next door to one of the biggest suite parties! The sounds of rhythmic slapping and cries of, well, if not pain, then some intense emotion, kept up for quite a while. (At one point someone seemed to be rhythmically lifting and dropping a piece of furniture as well – not sure what that was about, but hats off to them!) Happily, thanks to Mija and Paul, we happened to have QI on DVD, so we watched a couple episodes and by the end of the second one, things had mellowed out enough that we could drift off to sleep.

Part II tomorrow!

Looking around for “spanked in girdle” on the net doesn’t yield much, I discovered today (when I should have been writing!) except for this amusing video (which lacks something in production value, but at least has nice lingerie!)

I’m finding the Mad Men theme of the upcoming Shadow Lane party very exciting. I have all my outer-wear taken care of. but I am a perfectionist and so I want all my unmentionables to be of the correct vintage as well! (And hey, who knows when your skirts will be flipped up at the party, and everyone in the room will be given a good view of your underclothes?!)

This is what I wish Mr. Defeu would buy for me. Please leave a comment and tell him he should get these for me — if he buys any of them, I’ll post pictures here of me wearing them!

Glamour Shape Wear Black Girdle	Harlow Vintage Peach French Knickers	Harlow Vintage Peach Bullet Bra
Glamour Shape Wear Black Corselette	Glamour Shape Wear Black Longline Bra

If you actually want to ensure me wearing these lovely items in a future photoshoot, you could always buy them for me yourself! Here they are in my wish list, which will send them directly to me!

Are you going to Shadow Lane’s 30th anniversary party? Because I am! It’s just three weeks now, and I am so excited about it! I was a bit nervous for last year’s party, but this year I know so many more people so this time around all I feel is bouncily anticipatory.

Have you done your shopping? I’m pretty much done with mine, but that’s just ’cause I’m so eager. You still have time to get some shopping done online and have it shipped to you in good time. (You could even actually go to the shops, I s’pose, but that’s soooo last century! [grin] )

The fun part is the kind of shopping you get to do for Shadow Lane. For instance, you might be needing to get some unique toys to impress potential spankees (or have potential spankers use on you!)

Victorian Wooden Hairbrush	Jemico Two-Sided Razor Strop Paddle	Bloodline Wooden Paddle – 14″
Slapper Crop	Singapore Stinger Cane

A bit of bondage, perhaps? Possibly some rumpy-pumpy?

Natural Hemp Rope – Assorted Sizes And don’t forget your EMT Safety Shears just in case you need to get your bondage bunny out quick!

Liquid Silicone Lubricant This is a great lube which is long-lasting and safe for sensitive skin.

Need to brush up on your technique? Or, would you like to bring a copy of the book my story is published in for me to sign for you?

The Compleat Spanker

Bottoms Up: Spanking Good Stories

What kind of schoolgirl do you like? Traditional … or slutty?

Traditional Pleated Plaid Skirt (Wide selection of colours & sizes)

Pleated Plaid MICRO MINI skirt (In Choice of Colors)

Don’t forget that this year’s theme is the 1960′s Drama “Mad Men” so you might want to get something that fits the theme (1950-1960s Clothing) for the big party Saturday night!

Finally, looking to get kinkier? Why not try a “Wartenberg wheel,” which fascinates submissives and masochists, but can be adjusted by simple pressure to be either teasing or intense. And it fits in your pocket! Great conversation starter! Or is your playmate making too much noise in your hotel room? My favourite kind of gag (and the most effective I’ve found at actual noise reduction) is the “cock gag,” which might sound a bit off-putting, but actually means that it has a gag which is a good size and shape for the mouth (ahem) and which has a strip of leather in the front which is discrete and good sound-proofing!

Wartenberg Wheel

Latex Gag, Leather Straps

Hope to see you there!

Okay, okay, so I just liked that title too much to call this post anything else. And it is vaguely relevant!

Some weeks ago (and this is how terribly behind I am in this blog – my apologies) my Papa Otter and I went to Gallifrey One, a Dr Who convention. I had not thought we were going to be able to go to it, and then Papa Otter surprised me on Valentines Day with tickets. I had really wanted to go, not just because of the general Dr Who-ness, but because Mija and Paul and Bridget (et famille) would be going, and who wouldn’t want to be part of that gaggle of kinky geeks?!

The only downside of the surprise Valentines tickets was that I had almost no time to put together a Dr Who themed outfit. I was wracking my brains whilst on the phone with Mija, and then she suggested, “What about that episode where Romana is dressed like a schoolgirl—” and I interrupted her crying out, “Yes, of course, ‘City of Death’!”

I had the dress, the blazer – but not the fabulous red shoes, red tie, or straw boater. So I had to scramble to find them (yay for the interwebs!) and Mija said she’d loan me her boater. The result was thus:

Wikipedia tells us:

Seeing her [Lalla Ward’s] costumes as an important part in creating the role of Romana, Ward clashed with costume designer Doreen James, rejecting the silver catsuit James had designed for her for the story. Ward came up with the idea for the schoolgirl costume she wore in conjunction with Tom Baker, recalling, “I thought it would be fun to wear something that little girls probably hated wearing because it might cheer them up… I didn’t bank on the fact that I’d also get loads of letters from their fathers saying ‘Cor! School uniform!’”.

Now add to this the fact that Lalla Ward and Tom Baker were a couple at the time of shooting…. Now, as one can obviously read into that quote – at least if you are spanko-minded – Tom and Lalla obviously had that schoolgirl uniform on-hand for a specific reason – and possibly Lalla was not as surprised at the reactions as all that…!

Anyway, we had a brilliant time – it was like there was a mini-spanking contingent at the con! As a panel at the con pointed out, Dr Who has always embraced people who were “other,” and alternative sexualities, which makes it a safe haven for kinky folk who like sci-fi. (Although, let’s face it, if you’ve seen the attendance lists of your local s-f convention and your local dungeon, you’re mostly seeing the same names, so it’s not like the people at this con need a safe space the way people at a Southern Baptist Convention might….) And I think one can safely assume The Doctor likes a bit of spanky-bot-bot – I’m mean, he’s a man of the multiverse and all, he’s been around the block a few times, picked up some exotic practices along the way….

The question I have for spankers is “Who would you spank on Doctor Who?” And for spankees, same question, vice versa!

I’ll go first: I’d like Tom Baker, Christopher Eccelston, and David Tennant to spank me. Preferably all at the same time! And I’d probably enjoy switching with Captain Jack. (This probably goes without saying…!) Okay, have at it, you lot!