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By Julian Joyce | BBC News

Sex seems to be everywhere these days, yet the details of Max Mosley’s privacy hearing have helped lift a veil on one type of sexual behaviour still shrouded in secrecy – sadomasochism.

As well as the whipping, the searching of hair for lice, and the harsh commands barked in gruff German, a News of the World video shown in Max Mosley’s High Court case has revealed a more tender face of the supposedly dark sadomasochistic lifestyle.

There were images of a post-session impromptu tea party between Mr Mosley and his female companions, alongside courtroom evidence from friends. It’s something advocates for tolerance are keen to talk about, amid concern the Mosley case will further increase suspicion of such activities.

In doing so, they come up against the guardians of traditional morality – such as the Christian Action Research and Education (CARE) group which condemns “unconstructive” relationships based on “the dominion of one person over another”.

Nobody knows how many people are involved in the “scene”: a loose grouping of people across the country who enjoy an unorthodox – and under current laws potentially illegal – sexual lifestyle. However, one US study suggests 11% of women and 14% of men have engaged in BDSM – an abbreviation for bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism – activities.

If those figures are translated to the UK, it could mean around four million people have tried BDSM. A smaller, but still substantial, number has chosen to make it a “lifestyle choice”.

The Mosley case has also confirmed historical prejudices about Britain’s long-standing “spanking” tradition – the famous flagellation scene in the 18th Century novel Fanny Hill, being just one example. “Just a little harmless English S&M”, was how Time magazine headlined its account of the court hearing. It concluded: “On this island where manners mean everything, one takes one’s whipping with a stiff upper lip.”

According to the former editor of the Erotic Review, Rowan Pelling, Britain is “still known abroad as the ‘nation of floggers’”.

“A lot of it has to do with the way we have historically treated children,” says Ms Pelling, “sending them away to boarding school from an early age. Plus, the British are thought to be repressed – and any repression will result in somewhat recherche and unusual sexual activities.”
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