Zille Defeu’s Fetish Fantasies

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I’ve been organizing the books in our apartment, as they are threatening to take over the place, and I found this gem among Papa Otter’s erotica collection.

The cover is more funny than arousing (to me, anyway) but what is lovely and even in it’s own way arousing is the innocence of the image. No worries about feminism, here, no angst about if spanking your wife is okay, no confusion about whether discipline should have sex involved (the author thinks it should, if you can’t tell by the spanker’s humongous erection!) — these are some happy ’60s swingers who explore their desires with an almost child-like innocence.

The book cheerfully merges domestic discipline with sex (and swinging, because once you find out the neighbours like spanking, too, the obvious next step is to spank and fuck the neighbour’s wife, non?) in a way that is very heartening for me, because Papa Otter and I find they mingle very well indeed, and I was very surprised when I came across the DD [Domestic Discipline] community and found out that I wasn’t supposed to want to mix those things!

My favourite example of this (and I really need to carry the URL for this site around with me, because when I tell people about it they just can’t believe me) is this fabulous article, Thanking the HOH — The “Formal Thank You” as a Non-Sexual Act. I don’t know how I found it, but once I realized what I’d come across, I had a reaction that combined all the best aspects of shooting my drink out my nose and punching the air and shouting, “Yes!”
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Ages and ages ago I wrote about a scene my Papa Otter and I did with Henry Higgens.

Well, he was not just kind enough to beat my ass to exotic new shades of black and blue, but he also shot am image of Papa Otter holding me afterwards. (I think he was grabbing my hair because I still had a bit of sass left in me, which I can only explain by assuming I have an inferior self-preservation instinct!)

I had planned to get the images up, but then they got misplaced (which is just as bad or worse when you’re dealing with bytes and pixels to loosing real world items). However, I just found the file they were in, and so here and now I finally get to share this image with you!
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This Sunday, Bonnie over at My Bottom Smarts asked:

Our topic this week is based upon a question I have received from (often anonymous) e-mailers several times in various forms over the years. The basic theme is that the sender has a difficult time believing that any intelligent, capable adult woman would allow herself to be subjected to repeated spankings. The implication is that I must either have mental health issues or be a battered wife. Of course, neither is true. If they seem earnest, I write back and try to explain this, but I doubt I change anyone’s mind.
Why is it so difficult for many vanillas to accept that there are successful, sane, happy people who find consensual adult spankings to be beneficial?
I look forward to a day when spanking is considered like, say, fellatio. Not all lovers practice this technique, but it’s common enough that few people think much one way or the other about those who partake.

I was just talking the other day with a friend about how “vanillas” are often so ready to accept a bit of spanky-bot-bot as normal foreplay, how so many of them have a pair of handcuffs or a silk scarf in the bedside drawer, and it is so easy for them to accept that as a bit of harmless fun. Kind of in the way a completely straight girl could be perfectly comfortable in a room full of naked gals, in a way that a bi or lesbian woman is no longer able to be entirely comfortable, but has to avert her eyes or she feels like she’s ogling.

(So I think that the comparison of spanking with fellatio is actually more reasonable than you may think – it’s just that you are getting emails from the sorts of people who might think fellatio is also sick and not part of a healthy sex life!)

So one does wonder if all of those people who refuse to believe that “any intelligent, capable adult woman would allow herself to be subjected to repeated spankings” are closeted spankos (or other kinky type) who cannot accept in others what they refuse to allow in themselves.

Another point, however, is that vanillas tend to understand a bit of spanking as a part of sex. But if you are completely satisfied and fulfilled by spanking, that strikes them as weird. (There’s your “mental health issues”!) And if you are using spanking for behaviour modification, well, that’s just sick and wrong, obviously. (And there’s the “battered wife”!)

If you are going to be able to explain it to vanillas at all, I’ve found the best thing is to compare it to a “runner’s high.” Runners and other exercisers will go through all sorts of pain (The first day back at the gym can be more painful than the average spanking!) for a variety of “understandable” reasons, like the release of adrenalin and endorphins which make you feel so good after the pain/exertion is over. Or the “results,” which are physical for gym-goers and more emotional for spankees. But even a good workout can leave you feeling centred and calmed, the way a spanking does.

But the people who are repressed you can never get to accept “beneficial consensual adult spankings.” And most unrepressed vanillas will never “get it” outside of a sexual context.

(Not that spankings don’t have their place in said sexual context! Never let it be said that I am against mixing spanking and sex!) [grins]

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I have so much to write about the party, and I can’t yet organize all those thoughts in one place, but the first thing I want to do is give a view of the party from the people attending it. Here are a number of tweets written from before, during, and after the party. (Although they are in reverse order, latest to oldest, below.) It was wonderful how many people tweeted their kind thoughts about the party, and it makes me very happy to read. It also gives the best peek into what the party was like as it was going on – as opposed to what both I and other people write about it later.

eltercerojo: Yay! Just got off the freeway. @paulatnorthgare got us home in under 5.5 hours. #sfcp is over… until next time.

zilledefeu: Ok, me is go to nap now. More thank yous and reminisces from #sfcp later! But it may take a few days for the huge grin to wear off my face!

zilledefeu: Also thank you to @MsMaggieMayhem for enough safer sex supplies to keep a Caliguan-style debauchery going for a week! #sfcp

zilledefeu: I adore @eltercerojo @paulatnorthgare @TheMysteryMinx @asparkle2 @Firemn_Chris (and non-tweety friends!) Thank you all SO MUCH! #sfcp

asparkle2: Walking back from #sfcp last night, drunk guy points at cane and says to HH, “Dude you have an antenna coming out of your backpack.”

eltercerojo: We’re headed home. @paulatnorthgare is driving. What an amazing weekend! Too tired to tweet. #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: Great brunch with @eltercerojo @paulatnorthgare @zilledefeu @sleekimager @TheMysteryMinx HH and @asparkle2. On BART heading home now. #sfcp

Tony_ShadowLane:@Radagast333 I have heard much the same and more. Congratulations to Zille & friends are in order.

Radagast333: So I read that #sfcp was a rousing success. All hail debauchery!

MinxGrrl: @Firemn_Chris one can hope so I’m really enjoying laying on my side in bed knowing if I roll over the ow of spanking will be there #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: @MinxGrrl Endorphin overload from last night playing tricks on your brain maybe? #sfcp

MinxGrrl: Here here!! RT @Firemn_Chris: And let me just say, @zilledefeu definitely knows how to throw a party. Congratulations on a rousing success. #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: And let me just say, @zilledefeu definitely knows how to throw a party. Congratulations on a rousing success. #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: Got back to hotel at 3 AM (time change). Ate at 24 hour cafe w/ @eltercerojo & @paulatnorthgare at 4. Same thing we do at SL in Vegas. #sfcp

lilEmmaJ: Missed both #sfcp and all the tweets about it STOMP!

caseydamnmorgan: I”m missing 12 hrs of tweets (from last night until now). Maybe #sfcp ate everyone up? owait, dat silleh!

Firemn_Chris: @Tony_ShadowLane You made @zilledefeu jump and squeal with your compliment. It was quite adorable. And you’re absolutely right too.

Tony_ShadowLane:@zilledefeu Triumphant party hostess, you are now entitled to the password and secret handshake for the spanking inner council.

Firemn_Chris: @MinxGrrl Yummy indeed. Was great fun meeting…and spanking…you finally. #sfcp

MinxGrrl: Oh and yummy spanking delivered by @simonp67 @Firemn_Chris and even a few swats from @peteracworth. Not a bad night if you ask me. #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: Standing at #sfcp and @asparkle2 walks up to me carrying two canes. I literally choked on my soda. What happened to my wife?

eltercerojo: OH: “no no absolutely not! Well, maybe one or two.” #sfcp

eltercerojo: Teachers desk just collapsed. School scene must be over. #sfcp

raindegrey: peter acworth, mark davis, jack hammer & jessie cox all just came to the party! woot! its gonna get kinky now…

eltercerojo: The party just started and attendence is high enough toopen the other half of this venue. So surprised how many ppl from SL are here. #sfcp

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There will finally be a spanking party in the San Francisco Bay Area!

That is … I’m doing it! And, uh, it’s in 11 days. Eeeep!

I’ve written all about it over at the SF-CP website (yes, “San Francisco Corporal Punishment” – I wanted to be inclusive!) so I won’t repeat myself over here. But I will say that the wonderful people at ShadowLane and Florida Moonshine have been wonderful with their help and support, as well as a number of spanko friends who are stepping up and saving my arse (presumably so it can later be spanked, of course!)

And I’ve just finalized the plans today to have a school role-play scene at the event, with a schoolmaster and secretary teaching and disciplining the students. (Whom, I assume, are all going to be some level of naughty!)

Here is the flyer for the event. Yes, that’s my bottom on the right.

I’d love if you could make it to the party. But if you can’t, I’ll just take all the good luck and “You’ll do fine” comments I can get!
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Oooh! I just noticed Fireman Chris has linked to the party! Thanks Chris!

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