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I’ve been organizing the books in our apartment, as they are threatening to take over the place, and I found this gem among Papa Otter’s erotica collection.

The cover is more funny than arousing (to me, anyway) but what is lovely and even in it’s own way arousing is the innocence of the image. No worries about feminism, here, no angst about if spanking your wife is okay, no confusion about whether discipline should have sex involved (the author thinks it should, if you can’t tell by the spanker’s humongous erection!) — these are some happy ’60s swingers who explore their desires with an almost child-like innocence.

The book cheerfully merges domestic discipline with sex (and swinging, because once you find out the neighbours like spanking, too, the obvious next step is to spank and fuck the neighbour’s wife, non?) in a way that is very heartening for me, because Papa Otter and I find they mingle very well indeed, and I was very surprised when I came across the DD [Domestic Discipline] community and found out that I wasn’t supposed to want to mix those things!

My favourite example of this (and I really need to carry the URL for this site around with me, because when I tell people about it they just can’t believe me) is this fabulous article, Thanking the HOH — The “Formal Thank You” as a Non-Sexual Act. I don’t know how I found it, but once I realized what I’d come across, I had a reaction that combined all the best aspects of shooting my drink out my nose and punching the air and shouting, “Yes!”
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So, there’s this site called F*** My Life where people write in and anonymously share embarrassing/deeply unpleasant situations with the rest of the world. I wander by there occasionally, because it can be a quite entertaining view of the human condition.

I shouldn’t have been surprised today to find this:

Today, I was talking to my mom. During the conversation she randomly asked me “does he take his leg off when you guys are having sex?” Referring to the guy I’ve been seeing who has a prosthetic leg. My dad then asked “does he beat you with it too if you’ve been naughty?” FML

Being me, I immediately want to find someone with a prosthetic leg and a sense of humour, and do a shoot! Any takers…?

This is a quick, somewhat random “catch-up” post.

This weekend was supposed to be a huge shoot weekend: an outdoors bondage shoot with Luke Degre and a new model on Saturday, and then a 6 hour shoot on Sunday with Lady Ripplee Severin and her girl, models Kade and Skye, and then also some fetish portraits of my friend Miu.

The shoot on Saturday went well, although we froze our bums off. I got some lovely shots, and I’m going to process my Master’s images tommorow, but I’m sure he got great stuff, too. The model was a great sport, and it was her first time doing a bondage shoot, so I think she wins some sort of award for bravery (being outside for all to see, wearing nothing but rope, knickers, and a camisole in the cold, cold wind whipping off the Pacific.) I’ll post some pictures later!

However, at the last minute, Sunday fell through. Two of the models had a health-related issue (there’s a fascinating story behind it, involving making porn, but it’s not my story to tell) and since I was renting my friend’s studio, I needed to kinda pack ‘em in to make it financially prudent. So the whole darn thing got cancelled, and now I have to try and get it rescheduled, and coordinating that many people’s schedules is never easy, but when it comes to models, it’s a bit like herding kittens. (And I can say this, as I am a model as well! So there!)

Speaking of models, my Master and I are shooting the gorgeous Sybil Hawthorne next week (whee!) and I just found this quote on her blog:

“Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy — the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation.” – Eric Hoffer

My Master and I had some playtime on Sunday, but it didn’t go very well. Our connection was just not, well, connecting properly. When something like that happens, I have trouble letting go of the disappointment and hurt, and moving on so we can turn a mistake into something good. So the disappointment is at least half my fault, and of course it’s my problem from the start that I hold on too tightly to my hopes and expectations.

Scenes can’t always be the perfect combinations of lust and complimentary desires and profound connection. Sometimes people are tired, or have trouble focusing due to stress, or sometimes things just get confused because life is like that. I need to learn to “let go” so that my Master and I can salvage a scene-gone-wrong, and turn it into something reaffirming — or at least just fun!

Anyway, I come into this Monday sad and feeling emotionally worn-out, and wishing I could get a “do-over” of Sunday. Our weekends together are so short, loosing a day like that really stings.

By Julian Joyce | BBC News

Sex seems to be everywhere these days, yet the details of Max Mosley’s privacy hearing have helped lift a veil on one type of sexual behaviour still shrouded in secrecy – sadomasochism.

As well as the whipping, the searching of hair for lice, and the harsh commands barked in gruff German, a News of the World video shown in Max Mosley’s High Court case has revealed a more tender face of the supposedly dark sadomasochistic lifestyle.

There were images of a post-session impromptu tea party between Mr Mosley and his female companions, alongside courtroom evidence from friends. It’s something advocates for tolerance are keen to talk about, amid concern the Mosley case will further increase suspicion of such activities.

In doing so, they come up against the guardians of traditional morality – such as the Christian Action Research and Education (CARE) group which condemns “unconstructive” relationships based on “the dominion of one person over another”.

Nobody knows how many people are involved in the “scene”: a loose grouping of people across the country who enjoy an unorthodox – and under current laws potentially illegal – sexual lifestyle. However, one US study suggests 11% of women and 14% of men have engaged in BDSM – an abbreviation for bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism – activities.

If those figures are translated to the UK, it could mean around four million people have tried BDSM. A smaller, but still substantial, number has chosen to make it a “lifestyle choice”.

The Mosley case has also confirmed historical prejudices about Britain’s long-standing “spanking” tradition – the famous flagellation scene in the 18th Century novel Fanny Hill, being just one example. “Just a little harmless English S&M”, was how Time magazine headlined its account of the court hearing. It concluded: “On this island where manners mean everything, one takes one’s whipping with a stiff upper lip.”

According to the former editor of the Erotic Review, Rowan Pelling, Britain is “still known abroad as the ‘nation of floggers’”.

“A lot of it has to do with the way we have historically treated children,” says Ms Pelling, “sending them away to boarding school from an early age. Plus, the British are thought to be repressed – and any repression will result in somewhat recherche and unusual sexual activities.”
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