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As of right now, if you to go to the Shadowlane website, you’ll see me! This is sooooo exciting for me — to see myself right on the front of Shadowlane’s website! Wheeee!

(And don’t I look sad and sorry? Pity me, poor thing, because so many terrible things have obviously happened to me, and now I’m out in the snow all alone! However, despite my misadventures, my stockings are straight, so at least I have my pride!)

I would add another “happy moment” from shooting with Mr Defeu for Shadowlane, but to be honest the whole thing is one huge happy memory. In the years I’ve been with my husband my lust for him has never waned — indeed, it just gets stronger over time. So to get to have the fun of making a film, be doing it with Tony and Eve, who are just brilliant to work with, and to top it off, be having the sort of fun roleplay scenario that I love best, and be doing it with the person I most want to do it with — how can you top that?

This is a good moment to add a request to please vote for me as the New Spankee of the Year. Many of you lovely people have stepped up and voted for me — my thanks! — but I’m still not quite there (when I check I’m either second or third, as votes for the various girls come in). I don’t know if you can vote more than once, but if you have voted, please check back and see if they allow multiple votes from one person.

My dear friend Mija has this to say:

The lovely blogger and model Zille Defeu (one of the charming and witty PB co-authors) has been nominated on the spankingspot.com as the best new spankee of the year.

Though I’m not sure “new” quite describes someone with the range and experience of Zille, I’m thrilled for the chance to recognize her film work and encourage you to click here and vote for Zille. I mean, look at this picture. Doesn’t she clearly deserve it? (To win I mean. What on earth were you thinking?)
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Addendum:
Right after I hit send I thought I’d add this. In addition to her own blog writing and modeling, Zille has done a lot in the spanking scene this year. I don’t follow her every move (much as that might be great fun) but I’ve seen her organize the SF-CP spanking party up in San Francisco (and epic fun night) and know she’s worked as a volunteer judge for this year’s SSC contest. She’s also attended Shadow Lane as well as UK hosted parties. She and her partner were a great help at helping run errands for the Northern Spanking suite party at Shadow Lane.

What’s my point? Vote for Zille not because she’s got a pretty face. Vote for her because, in best sense of the term, she’s a good all-rounder and gives back to our scene and community. What more can anyone ask of anyone, spankee or not?

Thank you, Mija! Thank you so much. I don’t even know what to say after reading that. Knowing that people really do notice and appreciate you … it’s an amazing feeling!

(Image from the exciting new Rose & Cheek Spanking Parties.)

A website called “Blisstree.com” has put up an article called. “What to Wear to a Spanking Party“. It reads like this:

So you’ve finally been invited to a spanking party, and, if you’re anything like me, your first question is: “What shall I wear?” It’s not the sort of thing you can look up easily in Emily Post or call your mother and ask what her set did. Still, spanking parties have become commonplace enough that there is a fair amount of information available. Here are some tips to get you started:

As you may well imagine, spanking parties have their own sort of preferred dress code. Some could argue that what you wear to a spanking party is even more critical that what you wear to a sex party, a topic I tackled here last month. Indeed, because spanking parties rarely involve nudity, the clothes become a part of the event, so you’ll want to choose your outfit carefully.

As with sex parties, there are a few practical considerations to take into account. For spankees, pantyhose are definitely a hindrance to straddling someone’s lap for a good paddling. Go for stay-up or garter belt stockings instead. And skirts and dresses are much easier to hike up if you’ve been naughty than unbuttoning a pair of pants.

Spankers are, by nature, a fairly conservative crowd, and the dress follows suit. Most parties are held in private homes with many spanking hookups dispersing to private rooms, but the bold and experienced will likely get the party started in full view. To err on the safe side, dress as you would for a dinner party – men in sports jacket, collared shirts, even a suit and tie, and women in dresses and skirts, as mentioned above. Schoolgirl outfits are popular, and a friend of mine who attended a recent spanking event dressed as a librarian was the hit of the evening, no pun intended.

Definitely leave your bondage gear at home. Wrong crowd (and crowds that rarely mix or crossover). If you show up with your leathers and chains, you may not be invited back. Instead, plan on doing a lot of pleasant chatting about spanking with fellow devotees, and then repair to your private room. Bottoms up!

Alright, this article is not so bad. It seems to be written by a friend of a spanko, who needed to get an article up on the website, especially an article that would generate a lot of traffic. When said friend talks about the wonderful spanking party they went to, this author had a lightbulb go off over their head — “Ah ha! That’s what I’ll write about! That should get lots of links back!”

Overall, I think we can count this as a reasonable win for spanko-vanilla relations. Some useful information is gotten out onto the internet, in a vanilla forum, where it might do some good. And, in return, the website generates some nice buzz for itself, so everyone is happy.

Well, until you see how the article spawns outward. Here is the next incarnation of it:

Parties are usually fun. They’re usually based around some type of celebration such a birthday, a graduation, a wedding, or even sex. But then we came across the idea of a “Spanking Party” and had to wonder… is this really a party? When I think of spanking, I think back to the days of breaking my older sister’s barbie doll at age 5 and having to fear that my Dad would come home later and spank the hell out of me as a punishment. However, there seems to be a decent amount of people out there that like to get together for the sole purpose of spanking one another. Just like every other activity, “Spanking Parties” have their own set of etiquettes to follow.

According to our friends over at BlissTree.com, if you find yourself attending one of these odd parties, you better show up wearing the proper attire or you may end up being the outcast amongst outcasts. For example, don’t show up thinking you’re attending a whips & chains event. Surprisingly, most attendees of these odd parties actually like the more casual and conventional dress attire. Men can keep it simple with blazers and jeans while women have been known to dress up as librarians or school girls.

BlissTree also suggests sparking up conversation that has to do with the topic at hand: spanking. Here at Leftos, we’re not that knowledgeable about the world of spanking, but to each their own. If you do end up on the invitation list and decide to attend, be sure to check out BlissTree’s full article before you show up being the weirdo at a weirdo party!

How quickly we go from reasonably respectful, even if spankos are being used as a topic to draw traffic and links to a website, to belittling and downright insulting — while still using spankos as a way to draw traffic and links to a website!

And also, the jerks at “Leftos” manage to mangle or otherwise distort the info. Even down to making it less useful for the poor first-time party goer who mistakenly trusts this link. The first article said, “To err on the safe side, dress as you would for a dinner party – men in sports jacket, collared shirts, even a suit and tie, and women in dresses and skirts, as mentioned above. Schoolgirl outfits are popular, and a friend of mine who attended a recent spanking event dressed as a librarian was the hit of the evening, no pun intended.” And I would stand by that advice! ” But the second article for some reason says, “Men can keep it simple with blazers and jeans while women have been known to dress up as librarians or school girls.”

Where did the jeans come from?! And what’s this, “women have been known to” crap? If the idiot who wrote this took even five seconds to google “spanking,” he’d have soon seen that dressing up as a schoolgirl is not just something that has been “known to happen” — most spankers would probably prefer that the gals show up that way!

And I just love how such sneering negativity has crept in: “if you find yourself attending one of these odd parties, you better show up wearing the proper attire or you may end up being the outcast amongst outcasts” and “the weirdo at a weirdo party” — sure, Leftos gives lipservice to open-mindedness with the “but to each their own” line, but it is plain what the writer thinks — these are freaks — useful freaks, however, since putting this article on the Leftos site will generate some nice buzz!

It just makes me want to go slap their smug faces. They are using me and my compatriots while at the same time mocking us.

I know, I know — it’s nothing new. But this was just a shockingly pellucid example of it.

For any person who has found this entry while searching. “What to Wear to a Spanking Party,” let me just clarify things.
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I have so much to write about the party, and I can’t yet organize all those thoughts in one place, but the first thing I want to do is give a view of the party from the people attending it. Here are a number of tweets written from before, during, and after the party. (Although they are in reverse order, latest to oldest, below.) It was wonderful how many people tweeted their kind thoughts about the party, and it makes me very happy to read. It also gives the best peek into what the party was like as it was going on – as opposed to what both I and other people write about it later.

eltercerojo: Yay! Just got off the freeway. @paulatnorthgare got us home in under 5.5 hours. #sfcp is over… until next time.

zilledefeu: Ok, me is go to nap now. More thank yous and reminisces from #sfcp later! But it may take a few days for the huge grin to wear off my face!

zilledefeu: Also thank you to @MsMaggieMayhem for enough safer sex supplies to keep a Caliguan-style debauchery going for a week! #sfcp

zilledefeu: I adore @eltercerojo @paulatnorthgare @TheMysteryMinx @asparkle2 @Firemn_Chris (and non-tweety friends!) Thank you all SO MUCH! #sfcp

asparkle2: Walking back from #sfcp last night, drunk guy points at cane and says to HH, “Dude you have an antenna coming out of your backpack.”

eltercerojo: We’re headed home. @paulatnorthgare is driving. What an amazing weekend! Too tired to tweet. #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: Great brunch with @eltercerojo @paulatnorthgare @zilledefeu @sleekimager @TheMysteryMinx HH and @asparkle2. On BART heading home now. #sfcp

Tony_ShadowLane:@Radagast333 I have heard much the same and more. Congratulations to Zille & friends are in order.

Radagast333: So I read that #sfcp was a rousing success. All hail debauchery!

MinxGrrl: @Firemn_Chris one can hope so I’m really enjoying laying on my side in bed knowing if I roll over the ow of spanking will be there #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: @MinxGrrl Endorphin overload from last night playing tricks on your brain maybe? #sfcp

MinxGrrl: Here here!! RT @Firemn_Chris: And let me just say, @zilledefeu definitely knows how to throw a party. Congratulations on a rousing success. #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: And let me just say, @zilledefeu definitely knows how to throw a party. Congratulations on a rousing success. #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: Got back to hotel at 3 AM (time change). Ate at 24 hour cafe w/ @eltercerojo & @paulatnorthgare at 4. Same thing we do at SL in Vegas. #sfcp

lilEmmaJ: Missed both #sfcp and all the tweets about it STOMP!

caseydamnmorgan: I”m missing 12 hrs of tweets (from last night until now). Maybe #sfcp ate everyone up? owait, dat silleh!

Firemn_Chris: @Tony_ShadowLane You made @zilledefeu jump and squeal with your compliment. It was quite adorable. And you’re absolutely right too.

Tony_ShadowLane:@zilledefeu Triumphant party hostess, you are now entitled to the password and secret handshake for the spanking inner council.

Firemn_Chris: @MinxGrrl Yummy indeed. Was great fun meeting…and spanking…you finally. #sfcp

MinxGrrl: Oh and yummy spanking delivered by @simonp67 @Firemn_Chris and even a few swats from @peteracworth. Not a bad night if you ask me. #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: Standing at #sfcp and @asparkle2 walks up to me carrying two canes. I literally choked on my soda. What happened to my wife?

eltercerojo: OH: “no no absolutely not! Well, maybe one or two.” #sfcp

eltercerojo: Teachers desk just collapsed. School scene must be over. #sfcp

raindegrey: peter acworth, mark davis, jack hammer & jessie cox all just came to the party! woot! its gonna get kinky now…

eltercerojo: The party just started and attendence is high enough toopen the other half of this venue. So surprised how many ppl from SL are here. #sfcp

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There will finally be a spanking party in the San Francisco Bay Area!

That is … I’m doing it! And, uh, it’s in 11 days. Eeeep!

I’ve written all about it over at the SF-CP website (yes, “San Francisco Corporal Punishment” – I wanted to be inclusive!) so I won’t repeat myself over here. But I will say that the wonderful people at ShadowLane and Florida Moonshine have been wonderful with their help and support, as well as a number of spanko friends who are stepping up and saving my arse (presumably so it can later be spanked, of course!)

And I’ve just finalized the plans today to have a school role-play scene at the event, with a schoolmaster and secretary teaching and disciplining the students. (Whom, I assume, are all going to be some level of naughty!)

Here is the flyer for the event. Yes, that’s my bottom on the right.

I’d love if you could make it to the party. But if you can’t, I’ll just take all the good luck and “You’ll do fine” comments I can get!
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Oooh! I just noticed Fireman Chris has linked to the party! Thanks Chris!