Comments on: It’s the attention, stupid!* http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/its-the-attention-stupid/ fetish and kink, spanking and sex - in words and pictures Tue, 09 Mar 2010 21:48:04 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: sixofthebest http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/its-the-attention-stupid/comment-page-1/#comment-3836 sixofthebest Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:19:44 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1832#comment-3836 Those were beautiful spanking clips. I enjoyed them because, the naughty lady wore suspender-belt and stockings, which made the scene for me more erotic. Those were beautiful spanking clips. I enjoyed them because, the naughty lady wore suspender-belt and stockings, which made the scene for me more erotic.

]]> By: carolinegrey http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/its-the-attention-stupid/comment-page-1/#comment-3814 carolinegrey Tue, 03 Nov 2009 11:29:41 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1832#comment-3814 This rings all kinds of bells for me! Thanks very much for such an excellent post. One of the things that I love so much about the kinky world, and being a bottom is of course the attention. There wasn't much to go around when I was a kid, and I learned early that being quiet and good and helpful was actually the best way to be recognized. ie "Caroline is such a good girl, why can't you be like Caroline"! I have no doubt it underscored the people-pleasing sub side of my personality. But the slightly bratty, attention seeking stuff--that would never have worked in my house. So it was a real joy to discover that I could explore that side in my adult kink. And it wasn't even about so called "brattiness" per se. It was more that now and then I could be a little demanding, a little needy, a little out-of-order, and still be loved. And more than that, be lovingly attended to. This rings all kinds of bells for me! Thanks very much for such an excellent post. One of the things that I love so much about the kinky world, and being a bottom is of course the attention. There wasn’t much to go around when I was a kid, and I learned early that being quiet and good and helpful was actually the best way to be recognized. ie “Caroline is such a good girl, why can’t you be like Caroline”! I have no doubt it underscored the people-pleasing sub side of my personality. But the slightly bratty, attention seeking stuff–that would never have worked in my house. So it was a real joy to discover that I could explore that side in my adult kink. And it wasn’t even about so called “brattiness” per se. It was more that now and then I could be a little demanding, a little needy, a little out-of-order, and still be loved. And more than that, be lovingly attended to.

]]> By: Serenity Everton http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/its-the-attention-stupid/comment-page-1/#comment-3812 Serenity Everton Sun, 01 Nov 2009 04:44:16 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1832#comment-3812 I had not read this when I wrote mine, but I think you said it pretty well. :) As for ignoring, I've heard certain dominants and "Master"s advocate this as punishment, and heard tell of some actually implementing it. However, this sort of reaction would be, shall I say, an unmistakable signal that I was neither worth his time or effort. I don't think that's the message he wants to send to me. At least, it'd better not be or we have bigger problems than my persistent demands. s I had not read this when I wrote mine, but I think you said it pretty well. :)

As for ignoring, I’ve heard certain dominants and “Master”s advocate this as punishment, and heard tell of some actually implementing it. However, this sort of reaction would be, shall I say, an unmistakable signal that I was neither worth his time or effort. I don’t think that’s the message he wants to send to me. At least, it’d better not be or we have bigger problems than my persistent demands.

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]]> By: A quick addition to It’s the attention, stupid! http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/its-the-attention-stupid/comment-page-1/#comment-3810 A quick addition to It’s the attention, stupid! Sat, 31 Oct 2009 16:59:34 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1832#comment-3810 [...] Kinky Books « It’s the attention, stupid!* [...] [...] Kinky Books « It’s the attention, stupid!* [...]

]]> By: Paul1510 http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/its-the-attention-stupid/comment-page-1/#comment-3809 Paul1510 Fri, 30 Oct 2009 22:09:54 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1832#comment-3809 Zille, thanks for another glimpse into your soul, the vision of your little girl self is quite enticing. :D Love and warm hugs, Paul. Zille, thanks for another glimpse into your soul, the vision of your little girl self is quite enticing. :D
Love and warm hugs,
Paul.

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