Fyre — Oh, I haven’t heard from you in forever, Fyre! I guess my recent posts haven’t been pun-worthy! Anyway, gentle teasing aside, it’s lovely to see you again! Hope you and your girl are both doing very well!

Dylan — Yes, you’re right — of course the words mean something different to everyone. I remember I was shooting content for a webmistress, and she kept describing the content with a word (”nasty”) which just made me shudder every time I read it — and it cropped up in pretty much every other sentence on the site. I never spoke to her about it — I mean, it was her site, she made the call on the text she used to promote it — and I always just assumed that that word really “worked” for her.

(To clarify: I don’t have anything against the word “nasty,” on it’s own. I quite like Janet Jackson’s song, “Nasty Boys.” But for me, the word means something along the lines of “gross” and disgusting.” I’m far, far more likely to say something like “Ewwww! That’s nasty!” in reference to someone having puked in the subway, or my friends oversharing the details of digestion-gone-wrong, than I am to say, “Hey Sailor — come over here and give me some hot nasty sex!”)

As for the photo, I am quite enticed. And yes, my purposes are quite various and nefarious, though I’d be fucking the girl, not spanking her. OK, I’d spank her first, then fuck her.

But I think this is a case of vocabulary getting in the way of communication. I’m part of the amorphous group of people who have reclaimed the term “pervert” as a good thing to be, just like the new term, “kinkster”.

In my world, there are good perverts (people who indulge their kinks in a self-aware, consensual way) and bad perverts (people who deny their kinks so they come out in negative ways, or people like peeping toms or flashers (or much worse) who perform unconsensual acts.

But regardless of whether one is a good pervert or a bad one … well, one is still a pervert!