I had no idea how much we are alike in personalities until these past few days!!!! Now I see even more why Paul finds you so completely appealing and adores you so very much! Reading your responses to me makes me feel like I’m reading much of my own writing, except for the Master part of it, of course.

But this all IS leading to something, though I won’t and can’t rush into it with my hubby. But it sure does give me hope and a great big smile!!!!!

Thanks just for being you, and for me finding you, which I owe to Paul!
Tiggs

My knowledge comes first and best from my Master, who is British and was disciplined at school.

Secondly, I have read pretty much his entire collection of Janus magazines, and they focus very heavily on that topic! And of course, as much Victorian erotica as I can get my hands upon!

Thirdly, information websites like World Corporal Punishment Research.

Like you, I am not always a bouncy Tigger. I can get pretty Eeyore at times (and heh, a bit of Pooh and Piglet, too!)

I tried to deny that part of myself for a long time, and it caused me nothing but pain (esp. when it would burst out under pressure, generally at the wrong time!) I am so, so lucky that I’ve found a Master who realizes there are basically two girls living inside me, the service-oriented eager slave … and the raging brat who pretty much cares only about her own pleasure. To get to realize both of those sides of me in a safe way in this relationship has helped me to be a better partner than I have ever been to any of my exes. (Not to mention how much happier I am!)

My Master values both sides of me … because the good girl is much easier to live with and does things like clean the house, cook yummy dinners, and submit with grace and finds fulfillment in that. The brat, however, is terribly fun to be around (she does like a good time, she does!) and she has a gleam in her eye that my Master finds entirely arousing. And the more often I get to let the brat out, the easier it is to be the good girl the rest of the time!

I’m really, really moved by your response. Thank you so very much! I really wish you and your husband the best of luck in resolving these issues, and I hope it leads to much joy and spankings on your part!

But I have a hubby who does not see this all from the same place or understanding as I do, and this way of doing things as you’ve suggested might help significantly to fix much of what has been wrong forever in our relationship and also within me!!!!

Ooooh! I want to give you so many big hugs and kisses for this, you’ve no idea!!!

Love,
Tiggs

Dear wonderful Paul — thank you for sharing that story! I know it’s probably not easy to write about your experiences from the orphanage, but I do find the stories fascinating!

Falconer — and you are kind, as always! My Master might forget slave positions, too. But he will likely never forget the details of a school outfit, as that’s a pretty serious fetish for him. But, if he does, I will either smugly inform him of his mistake, and earn two sets of 6 of the best for my sass (all in good fun), or I will do the good slave thing and endevour to remind him without of the rule he actually set without in anyway seeming like he forgot it!

Hey Karl! — yes, that was really important to us, because we were quite serious about living 24/7, and we have both seen so many kinky relationships crash and burn. I think it’s the fact that we base things more off actual historical British disciplinary techniques, and less on the Gor books, or other BDSM fantasies, that we have the success we’ve had. And I love what you say, ‘A real creative interpretation of the idea that “spanking is really a complicated psychological game’ ” — it is, indeed, and it’s taken a lot of us figuring ourselves out on our own, and a lot of us talking and figuring us out as a couple, that keeps that game alive!

Tiggs! — Wow, that is exactly what I like to hear the best: that my ramblings actually help someone to figure out all this confusing stuff and have a better life, sex-and-spanking-wise! Many of us gals have that bad girl trapped inside us, but we’ve learned how to force the good girl socially-acceptable-exterior over her. Being able to let her out in controlled doses, for the enjoyment of all, is a really important thing for me, to keep me (relatively, at least!) sane and well-balanced! Please let me know how it goes for you!

You’ve actually given me a thought… I, like you, have a bad girl inside who has lots of pent up frustrations and annoyances, because I am absolutely non-confrontational and non-verbal about anything negative with my hubby. But letting my bad girl side out on predetermined instances? Yeah, that might work wonders for both of us… I’ll think on it some more but this might be big for us, really, really BIG!!!!

From my inner brat to yours, all the hugs and cuddles,
Tiggs