Comments on: Quitting spanking – and returning http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/quitting-spanking-and-returning/ fetish and kink, spanking and sex - in words and pictures Fri, 10 Feb 2012 11:33:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Paul http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/quitting-spanking-and-returning/comment-page-1/#comment-3897 Paul Thu, 03 Dec 2009 21:43:38 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1859#comment-3897 Zille, the very thought makes me shudder. :( Think how much poorer kinkdom would have been if both you and your Master had kept to your youthful resolves. I am so very glad that you both returned to your senses, is such a timely fashion. :D Love and warm hugs, Paul. Zille, the very thought makes me shudder. :(
Think how much poorer kinkdom would have been if both you and your Master had kept to your youthful resolves.
I am so very glad that you both returned to your senses, is such a timely fashion. :D
Love and warm hugs,
Paul.

]]> By: Graham http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/quitting-spanking-and-returning/comment-page-1/#comment-3895 Graham Thu, 03 Dec 2009 20:21:26 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1859#comment-3895 I find it hilarious that your friends outed you to yourself -- and at 17! My friends certainly didn't know what was up... Or maybe I was just more guarded : ) But it's interesting that you renounced kinkiness for being tied to weirdness and geekiness. I've been reflecting lately on the reasons I felt ashamed of my sexuality, and I think that has a lot to do with it. It was never "I'm ashamed to be turned on by spanking" -- hell, people we call vanilla admit to being turned on by it all the time. But it was admitting *how much* I'm turned on by it; the fact that "normal sex" just isn't as fun to fantasize about, and a full-day of costumed roleplay is what I call a good time. In my mind, spanking was embarrassing like being addicted to Dungeons & Dragons would be, not as a dark sexual deviance. (My apologies to any D&D fans I may have just outraged!) My strategy was to assume I'd grow out of it; that didn't work, so now my strategy is stalking kinky British people. That seems to be going well : ) Man, thank god your friends were such perceptive teenagers! I find it hilarious that your friends outed you to yourself — and at 17! My friends certainly didn’t know what was up… Or maybe I was just more guarded : )

But it’s interesting that you renounced kinkiness for being tied to weirdness and geekiness. I’ve been reflecting lately on the reasons I felt ashamed of my sexuality, and I think that has a lot to do with it. It was never “I’m ashamed to be turned on by spanking” — hell, people we call vanilla admit to being turned on by it all the time. But it was admitting *how much* I’m turned on by it; the fact that “normal sex” just isn’t as fun to fantasize about, and a full-day of costumed roleplay is what I call a good time. In my mind, spanking was embarrassing like being addicted to Dungeons & Dragons would be, not as a dark sexual deviance. (My apologies to any D&D fans I may have just outraged!)

My strategy was to assume I’d grow out of it; that didn’t work, so now my strategy is stalking kinky British people. That seems to be going well : )

Man, thank god your friends were such perceptive teenagers!

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