Spanko Brunch: bondage and spanking
Over at My Bottom Smarts the Spanko Brunch question today is:
Do you and your partner ever employ physical restraints as a part of your spankings?
If so, what sort of restraints do you use and how do they change your spanking experience?
If not, would you consider any sort of restraints in the future?
My response:
My Master and I have used physical restraints/bondage in our playtime. He’s not so big into the rope-bondage thang, because he has other things he’d rather be doing than spending half an hour getting me into intricate bondage – namely: spanking me or strapping me or caning me or slippering me…you get the idea!
However, I quite enjoy bondage – anything from elaborate shibari to a pair of handcuffs. I love being held down firmly to something and knowing that no matter how much I squirm, I ain’t going nowhere! I know I’m not alone in saying that it makes me feel safe, despite the obvious incongruity of that!
So, whenever my Master feels like putting the leather cuffs on my wrists and ankles, and clipping me to the “spanking chair of doom,” he has a willing victim. Not that I’m not always willing, but perhaps just that wee bit even more eager!
A big future DIY kinky project for us is putting these fabulous nautical attachments onto the base of the bed. These are a metal D-ring that fold down into their attachment, so that they are out of the way when not in use, and no one has to bump their shins into them! And they just look really kinky, too, which is always important!
I really want to explore being bound down securely to the bed, unable to move, and have my Master really let his inner-sadist out to play. (Wait – what am I talking about, “inner”?!) I know it would hurt like all-get-out, and it’s not something one would desire all the time, but I’m pretty sure he’d enjoy it, and since I’m already fantasizing about it, it would just be one of those really intense things that you fantasize about beforehand, just grit your teeth and get through when it happens, and then have astounding orgasms after!
Sadly, my Master does seem to generally prefer to see me using all my self control to maintain position whilst he canes me or straps me. Phooey, I say to that! Where’s the fun for me in having to hold myself in place despite the pain?! Oh, wait, right, he’s a sadist….
(Although, when it does come down to it, the best bondage of all is his hands and his body. Much more personal, and, errrr, hands-on…!)

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I loved your reply to Bonnie, dearest Zille, but loved the rest of what you wrote here far more. You and I have similar fantasies, and that is one fantasy that I actually would like to take into a real life experience with Dante at some point.
Mmmm… can just reading a post make you all floaty and endorphin-overloaded?
Big hugs,
Tiggs
Oh, I completely forgot myself yet again… LOVE the picture. You are positively yummy!
More hugs,
Tiggs
You wrote: “I know I’m not alone in saying that it makes me feel safe, despite the obvious incongruity of that!”
Though I know that is true of many, I will always find it baffling. The thought of being restrained is one of my worst nightmares.
Hey Tiggs! — I think that some posts can set those endorphins loose in your brain, and I think that may be the best compliment you can give a spanking blogger! Thank you!
And thank you for the other compliment!!!
Dante — If you ever figure anything out about masochism or submission, please tell me, because it doesn’t make any sense to me, and that’s who I am!
Hope the both of you are having a lovely weekend!