Zille Defeu’s Fetish Fantasies

Posts Tagged ‘domestic discipline’

I’ve been organizing the books in our apartment, as they are threatening to take over the place, and I found this gem among Papa Otter’s erotica collection.

The cover is more funny than arousing (to me, anyway) but what is lovely and even in it’s own way arousing is the innocence of the image. No worries about feminism, here, no angst about if spanking your wife is okay, no confusion about whether discipline should have sex involved (the author thinks it should, if you can’t tell by the spanker’s humongous erection!) — these are some happy ’60s swingers who explore their desires with an almost child-like innocence.

The book cheerfully merges domestic discipline with sex (and swinging, because once you find out the neighbours like spanking, too, the obvious next step is to spank and fuck the neighbour’s wife, non?) in a way that is very heartening for me, because Papa Otter and I find they mingle very well indeed, and I was very surprised when I came across the DD [Domestic Discipline] community and found out that I wasn’t supposed to want to mix those things!

My favourite example of this (and I really need to carry the URL for this site around with me, because when I tell people about it they just can’t believe me) is this fabulous article, Thanking the HOH — The “Formal Thank You” as a Non-Sexual Act. I don’t know how I found it, but once I realized what I’d come across, I had a reaction that combined all the best aspects of shooting my drink out my nose and punching the air and shouting, “Yes!”
Read the rest of this entry »

The discussion from FetLife (Spanking for punishment, and the dubious superiority of DD over BDSM) still continues (that is, I’m still involved in it!) A fellow responded to the original post, saying,

For those of us who like it, spanking is a wonderful pastime at whatevever [sic] level of severity we willingly participate. Viewed dispassionately it is also a rather silly activity to be hooked on!

Enjoy it in your own way and for it’s own sake, as a thing you both need and crave.In meeting that need it may well make you a better person in so far as it makes you happier and what could be wrong with that?
Other than that, I would suggest that the only form of discipline likely to be of service in the wider world is that of the self motivated variety.

She didn’t entirely agree with that response:

There is a big difference between “discipline” and “punishment” to most people…..that is why I used the word PUNISHMENT.

And personally…..I think spanking can “discipline” a person too if that is where their mind/body allows it to be used to/for but that wasn’t the purpose of this dialogue. (but happy to respond to that issue too.)

If I was a person who ran late places and it was deemed a problem I couldn’t get under control and sought help to correct…..some horrible severe x amount (or some top/dom determined level) of a wicked device (not going to name which ones I think are wicked) would be at least something to test to see if it would be a good “behaviour modification” device….maybe, maybe not.

His response:

I have just consulted the dictionary and the “big difference between discipline and punishment” is obviously as opaque to the compilers as it is to me!Not that it matters greatly as I find semantic battles are usually an exercise in futility.

What it boils down to I guess, is what are you seeking to achieve by punishment, behaviour modification, discipline, correction or any of the other words that can be found side by side in the dictionary.Could be I am missing something on that score.

So, I had to get in my own thoughts on the matter: Read the rest of this entry »

Happy is the me. Today marks the first day of my re-emergence as a real, functioning slave!

There is still a little work left to do for the evil jobby-job, but this weekend I am free to actually enjoy the weekend. Which means getting beaten a lot!
Read the rest of this entry »

Has anyone read Domestic Discipline?

It has a section on “anal discipline,” which I must admit sounds fascinating! But is the rest of the book worth buying for it?

The rest of the book does include sections on “corrective versus restorative discipline,” restorative discipline a term which also fascinates me, and, “discipline and emotional cycles,” which might have rather handy tips…

I don’t generally go much into the DD world, because a lot of those people seem to try to distance themselves from the kink world, and I have little patience for those who think they are somehow above people who admit to getting turned on by kinky stuff.

But this book is mighty tempting…

Okay, back to work. It’s blah, but it’s moving along faster than I could have hoped for. I don’t know which gods to thank, but Whoever it is should let me know so I can burn some incense or leave some fruit on their altar! [cheesey grin]