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Recently, the ever-so-sexy Rain Degrey loaned me a selection of rubber and fetish specialty magazines from the 1970s. I just love these things — they are so much kinkier to me than modern slick magazines — this was a time when liking this stuff wasn’t cool – it could cause you serious social ostracism, and possibly, if your filthy perversion was discovered, the loss of job and/or marriage. At best, you were unlikely to ever find a partner who would understand your needs.

And that’s what these magazines really tried to help with: hooking up like-minded perverts for nights of rubber-mac-clad-passion, classic-knicker-and-fully-formed-stocking-lust, or spanking delights. (Or all of the above together!)

In the Issue of “Rubber and Latex Special — Part B” (£1 per issue!), to my joy I discovered an article called, “Spanking Parties” (this being topical to some recent posts) and it was with even greater delight that I read the first paragraph:

The swinging spanking party is now part of the American scene and is, in many parts, taking the place of the wife-swapping party, which had quite a vogue over there for many years. The spanking party, particularly on the Western Sea Board, is becoming as important to the social life of the younger set as the bridge party has been over here.

Well, well! It couldn’t get much better than that! As I read further, I decided that actually the author of this article was A.) Not female, B.) had never been to the US, and C.) had possibly never been to a spanking party, either. But it doesn’t matter — there is a certain amusement value that comes from that! I include the rest of the article below, for your vintage reading pleasure. I’ve also scanned a couple of the images that accompanied the article — check out that vintage lingerie!

(I would love to ask the publishers for permission to reprint this — but there is no contact info for any publisher listed. If you know how I can get in contact with the owner of this article, please let me know so I can get in touch with them!)

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The swinging spanking party is now part of the American scene and is, in many parts, taking the place of the wife-swapping party, which had quite a vogue over there for many years. The spanking party, particularly on the Western Sea Board, is becoming as important to the social life of the younger set as the bridge party has been over here.

The main areas where they abound are on the new housing estates which are mushrooming up, and where little organised leisure time activities are available.

The spanking party grows out of a need to relieve the tedium of living. Spanking, as opposed to caning and other forms of corporal punishment of the severer type, has been part of the established form of correction in America for many years.

In the home, the child expects to have his bottom smacked with either the hand or, more usually, the paddle, for any misdemeanours. Later, at school, where societies from a large part of our of school activities, spanking is often included in the initiation ceremony, particularly if the sorority has any athletic annotations.

In the past, these initiation ceremonies were becoming more and more sadistic in their format. Because of many complaints, the ceremonies were banned in several schools where they still continue, the bestiality [sic] has tended to disappear, and has been replaced by the “fun” element.

Many ceremonies end with the formal presentation of one’s own paddle, suitably engraved, to mark the occasion. These presentation paddles are often placed on the wall in one’s house as a trophy. Everyone is proud to have them, it is because of this background that spanking parties have become popular. How do they start? Often it is in a very small way.

The American women are in and out of each others houses exchanging coffee dates as regularly as clockwork. On such an occasion one may comment on the paddle hanging on the wall. Very easily, the conversation turns towards the subject of spanking, and experiences are swopped, and they begin to reminisce about their College days.

The Hostess of the coffee party may, if she still enjoys the feel of the paddle at the hands of her husband, take the paddle down and hand it round. Then, it needs only one of the party to suggest a mutual paddling for the whole thing to begin. There and then, everyone paddles everyone else, and brings a glow all round. With the ice well and truly broken, those keenly interested will soon get together to discuss ways and means of doing it more often.
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(Image from the exciting new Rose & Cheek Spanking Parties.)

A website called “Blisstree.com” has put up an article called. “What to Wear to a Spanking Party“. It reads like this:

So you’ve finally been invited to a spanking party, and, if you’re anything like me, your first question is: “What shall I wear?” It’s not the sort of thing you can look up easily in Emily Post or call your mother and ask what her set did. Still, spanking parties have become commonplace enough that there is a fair amount of information available. Here are some tips to get you started:

As you may well imagine, spanking parties have their own sort of preferred dress code. Some could argue that what you wear to a spanking party is even more critical that what you wear to a sex party, a topic I tackled here last month. Indeed, because spanking parties rarely involve nudity, the clothes become a part of the event, so you’ll want to choose your outfit carefully.

As with sex parties, there are a few practical considerations to take into account. For spankees, pantyhose are definitely a hindrance to straddling someone’s lap for a good paddling. Go for stay-up or garter belt stockings instead. And skirts and dresses are much easier to hike up if you’ve been naughty than unbuttoning a pair of pants.

Spankers are, by nature, a fairly conservative crowd, and the dress follows suit. Most parties are held in private homes with many spanking hookups dispersing to private rooms, but the bold and experienced will likely get the party started in full view. To err on the safe side, dress as you would for a dinner party – men in sports jacket, collared shirts, even a suit and tie, and women in dresses and skirts, as mentioned above. Schoolgirl outfits are popular, and a friend of mine who attended a recent spanking event dressed as a librarian was the hit of the evening, no pun intended.

Definitely leave your bondage gear at home. Wrong crowd (and crowds that rarely mix or crossover). If you show up with your leathers and chains, you may not be invited back. Instead, plan on doing a lot of pleasant chatting about spanking with fellow devotees, and then repair to your private room. Bottoms up!

Alright, this article is not so bad. It seems to be written by a friend of a spanko, who needed to get an article up on the website, especially an article that would generate a lot of traffic. When said friend talks about the wonderful spanking party they went to, this author had a lightbulb go off over their head — “Ah ha! That’s what I’ll write about! That should get lots of links back!”

Overall, I think we can count this as a reasonable win for spanko-vanilla relations. Some useful information is gotten out onto the internet, in a vanilla forum, where it might do some good. And, in return, the website generates some nice buzz for itself, so everyone is happy.

Well, until you see how the article spawns outward. Here is the next incarnation of it:

Parties are usually fun. They’re usually based around some type of celebration such a birthday, a graduation, a wedding, or even sex. But then we came across the idea of a “Spanking Party” and had to wonder… is this really a party? When I think of spanking, I think back to the days of breaking my older sister’s barbie doll at age 5 and having to fear that my Dad would come home later and spank the hell out of me as a punishment. However, there seems to be a decent amount of people out there that like to get together for the sole purpose of spanking one another. Just like every other activity, “Spanking Parties” have their own set of etiquettes to follow.

According to our friends over at BlissTree.com, if you find yourself attending one of these odd parties, you better show up wearing the proper attire or you may end up being the outcast amongst outcasts. For example, don’t show up thinking you’re attending a whips & chains event. Surprisingly, most attendees of these odd parties actually like the more casual and conventional dress attire. Men can keep it simple with blazers and jeans while women have been known to dress up as librarians or school girls.

BlissTree also suggests sparking up conversation that has to do with the topic at hand: spanking. Here at Leftos, we’re not that knowledgeable about the world of spanking, but to each their own. If you do end up on the invitation list and decide to attend, be sure to check out BlissTree’s full article before you show up being the weirdo at a weirdo party!

How quickly we go from reasonably respectful, even if spankos are being used as a topic to draw traffic and links to a website, to belittling and downright insulting — while still using spankos as a way to draw traffic and links to a website!

And also, the jerks at “Leftos” manage to mangle or otherwise distort the info. Even down to making it less useful for the poor first-time party goer who mistakenly trusts this link. The first article said, “To err on the safe side, dress as you would for a dinner party – men in sports jacket, collared shirts, even a suit and tie, and women in dresses and skirts, as mentioned above. Schoolgirl outfits are popular, and a friend of mine who attended a recent spanking event dressed as a librarian was the hit of the evening, no pun intended.” And I would stand by that advice! ” But the second article for some reason says, “Men can keep it simple with blazers and jeans while women have been known to dress up as librarians or school girls.”

Where did the jeans come from?! And what’s this, “women have been known to” crap? If the idiot who wrote this took even five seconds to google “spanking,” he’d have soon seen that dressing up as a schoolgirl is not just something that has been “known to happen” — most spankers would probably prefer that the gals show up that way!

And I just love how such sneering negativity has crept in: “if you find yourself attending one of these odd parties, you better show up wearing the proper attire or you may end up being the outcast amongst outcasts” and “the weirdo at a weirdo party” — sure, Leftos gives lipservice to open-mindedness with the “but to each their own” line, but it is plain what the writer thinks — these are freaks — useful freaks, however, since putting this article on the Leftos site will generate some nice buzz!

It just makes me want to go slap their smug faces. They are using me and my compatriots while at the same time mocking us.

I know, I know — it’s nothing new. But this was just a shockingly pellucid example of it.

For any person who has found this entry while searching. “What to Wear to a Spanking Party,” let me just clarify things.
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I have so much to write about the party, and I can’t yet organize all those thoughts in one place, but the first thing I want to do is give a view of the party from the people attending it. Here are a number of tweets written from before, during, and after the party. (Although they are in reverse order, latest to oldest, below.) It was wonderful how many people tweeted their kind thoughts about the party, and it makes me very happy to read. It also gives the best peek into what the party was like as it was going on – as opposed to what both I and other people write about it later.

eltercerojo: Yay! Just got off the freeway. @paulatnorthgare got us home in under 5.5 hours. #sfcp is over… until next time.

zilledefeu: Ok, me is go to nap now. More thank yous and reminisces from #sfcp later! But it may take a few days for the huge grin to wear off my face!

zilledefeu: Also thank you to @MsMaggieMayhem for enough safer sex supplies to keep a Caliguan-style debauchery going for a week! #sfcp

zilledefeu: I adore @eltercerojo @paulatnorthgare @TheMysteryMinx @asparkle2 @Firemn_Chris (and non-tweety friends!) Thank you all SO MUCH! #sfcp

asparkle2: Walking back from #sfcp last night, drunk guy points at cane and says to HH, “Dude you have an antenna coming out of your backpack.”

eltercerojo: We’re headed home. @paulatnorthgare is driving. What an amazing weekend! Too tired to tweet. #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: Great brunch with @eltercerojo @paulatnorthgare @zilledefeu @sleekimager @TheMysteryMinx HH and @asparkle2. On BART heading home now. #sfcp

Tony_ShadowLane:@Radagast333 I have heard much the same and more. Congratulations to Zille & friends are in order.

Radagast333: So I read that #sfcp was a rousing success. All hail debauchery!

MinxGrrl: @Firemn_Chris one can hope so I’m really enjoying laying on my side in bed knowing if I roll over the ow of spanking will be there #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: @MinxGrrl Endorphin overload from last night playing tricks on your brain maybe? #sfcp

MinxGrrl: Here here!! RT @Firemn_Chris: And let me just say, @zilledefeu definitely knows how to throw a party. Congratulations on a rousing success. #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: And let me just say, @zilledefeu definitely knows how to throw a party. Congratulations on a rousing success. #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: Got back to hotel at 3 AM (time change). Ate at 24 hour cafe w/ @eltercerojo & @paulatnorthgare at 4. Same thing we do at SL in Vegas. #sfcp

lilEmmaJ: Missed both #sfcp and all the tweets about it STOMP!

caseydamnmorgan: I”m missing 12 hrs of tweets (from last night until now). Maybe #sfcp ate everyone up? owait, dat silleh!

Firemn_Chris: @Tony_ShadowLane You made @zilledefeu jump and squeal with your compliment. It was quite adorable. And you’re absolutely right too.

Tony_ShadowLane:@zilledefeu Triumphant party hostess, you are now entitled to the password and secret handshake for the spanking inner council.

Firemn_Chris: @MinxGrrl Yummy indeed. Was great fun meeting…and spanking…you finally. #sfcp

MinxGrrl: Oh and yummy spanking delivered by @simonp67 @Firemn_Chris and even a few swats from @peteracworth. Not a bad night if you ask me. #sfcp

Firemn_Chris: Standing at #sfcp and @asparkle2 walks up to me carrying two canes. I literally choked on my soda. What happened to my wife?

eltercerojo: OH: “no no absolutely not! Well, maybe one or two.” #sfcp

eltercerojo: Teachers desk just collapsed. School scene must be over. #sfcp

raindegrey: peter acworth, mark davis, jack hammer & jessie cox all just came to the party! woot! its gonna get kinky now…

eltercerojo: The party just started and attendence is high enough toopen the other half of this venue. So surprised how many ppl from SL are here. #sfcp

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There will finally be a spanking party in the San Francisco Bay Area!

That is … I’m doing it! And, uh, it’s in 11 days. Eeeep!

I’ve written all about it over at the SF-CP website (yes, “San Francisco Corporal Punishment” – I wanted to be inclusive!) so I won’t repeat myself over here. But I will say that the wonderful people at ShadowLane and Florida Moonshine have been wonderful with their help and support, as well as a number of spanko friends who are stepping up and saving my arse (presumably so it can later be spanked, of course!)

And I’ve just finalized the plans today to have a school role-play scene at the event, with a schoolmaster and secretary teaching and disciplining the students. (Whom, I assume, are all going to be some level of naughty!)

Here is the flyer for the event. Yes, that’s my bottom on the right.

I’d love if you could make it to the party. But if you can’t, I’ll just take all the good luck and “You’ll do fine” comments I can get!
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Oooh! I just noticed Fireman Chris has linked to the party! Thanks Chris!