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From All Things Spanking comes a link to Rowan Pelling’s sex advice column in the Daily Mail: ‘My lover wants to spank me but I think it’s too silly for words‘. The fabulous thing is how sex-positive the response is (with a disappointing end, sadly, below)…

QUESTION: I have been going out with my boyfriend for five months and we have a really good time together, both in and out of the bedroom, except for one thing – he keeps asking if he can spank me. I find the whole idea a bit ridiculous and a turn-off. What should I do?

Can I just break in to say I think the guy should break it off with the girl right now … who won’t try a bit of spanky-bot-bot for someone they are really into?! And, this is what all spankos dread: feeling secure enough to share their desires, and then being mocked and belittled for their pains!

ROWAN SAYS: There’s a good reason why the French dubbed chastisement le vice anglais; quite a few Brits do seem to harbour an erotic attachment to the notion of corporal punishment.
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Okay, I had another post I was going to put up today, but this just entirely trumps it! Thanks to Niki Flynn, who brought this amazing defence of “extreme” porn by Pandora Blake to my attention!

Read the whole thing — its extraordinarily well-written, and so clear and sensible that I can only think that any rational-minded person who’d had doubts about whether “extreme” porn was really needing to be censored or not, simply must agree with Pandora by the end of the article.

A part of the article that really delighted me was her explanation of herself as a lover of discipline — I could have written the exact same thing, only probably not as well as she has done!

I’m an independent, self-employed, over-ambitious perfectionist. I work hard and play hard and set myself tough goals. I need the profound emotional release that comes from, just for an evening, having no responsibilities at all. I need the deep, kittenish satisfaction that comes from offering myself to my lover, doing what I’m told and being found pleasing. I need the emotional simplicity that arises from being given very simple goals. Don’t move. Trust me. Endure this. Pain grounds me in my body better than any meditation technique I’ve ever tried. It cleanses my psyche of all the self-inflicted anxiety and guilt that accumulates during my average working week. It leaves me feeling renewed.

Pandora as Paulina on Girls Boarding School

This point really gets to the heart of the matter:

Let’s think about the argument here, for a second. The one championed so passionately by Liz Longhurst and the Daily Mail, that violent porn causes violent crime. The court case into Jane Longhurst’s tragic murder did not demonstrate a causal connection between the extreme porn Graham Coutts liked to look at and his act of homicide; nor has it ever been demonstrated that there is a de facto link between one act (looking at violent imagery) and another (committing violent crimes). The debate on violent videogames has raged for years without conclusion.

Everyone in the country is now affected by this law, despite the fact that the vast majority of us are not violent sexual offenders, and never will be, especially if we’re female. This law has nothing to do with violent crime, and everything to do with censorship.

There’s nothing more to say about that — case closed!

I may live in the US, but this rule in the UK could give our “ignorant prudes” ideas — and the ignorant prudes in the US are the spiritual descendants of the Puritans — ignorant prudes whom the UK kicked out for being annoyingly prudish and censorious of others!

I just hope rational thought and freedom can overcome this, and sooner rather than later!