Comments on: The cane: no, really … tell me what you really think! http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/ fetish and kink, spanking and sex - in words and pictures Fri, 10 Feb 2012 11:33:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Sunday scene & mentation on my masochism–part II http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/comment-page-1/#comment-6280 Sunday scene & mentation on my masochism–part II Wed, 01 Jun 2011 21:49:24 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1577#comment-6280 [...] I’ve written how Mr Defeu and the Senior cane changed all that one amazing [...] [...] I’ve written how Mr Defeu and the Senior cane changed all that one amazing [...]

]]> By: Zille on Caning - Spanking Blog http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/comment-page-1/#comment-3202 Zille on Caning - Spanking Blog Tue, 02 Jun 2009 16:50:47 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1577#comment-3202 [...] Defeu has a long and interesting post on her love of the cane, which you ought to go and read. Some key bits: A caning hurts. Quite a lot. It’s a white-hot [...] [...] Defeu has a long and interesting post on her love of the cane, which you ought to go and read. Some key bits: A caning hurts. Quite a lot. It’s a white-hot [...]

]]> By: HoneyScan http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/comment-page-1/#comment-3168 HoneyScan Wed, 27 May 2009 18:36:59 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1577#comment-3168 weee... everytime i drop by i'm more and more your loyal student... my girl and i are interested to experiment cane... thanks zille... weee… everytime i drop by i’m more and more your loyal student… my girl and i are interested to experiment cane… thanks zille…

]]> By: Zille http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/comment-page-1/#comment-3112 Zille Wed, 20 May 2009 01:11:59 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1577#comment-3112 Thank you, Caroline! I think you're just right that the formal context, with the known limits, changes everything. Before I had only done BDSM, where you start with the warm up and then you add pain until the point it becomes overwhelming. It's a very different animal! And I like Brit-style discipline much better...! Thank you, Caroline!

I think you’re just right that the formal context, with the known limits, changes everything.

Before I had only done BDSM, where you start with the warm up and then you add pain until the point it becomes overwhelming. It’s a very different animal!

And I like Brit-style discipline much better…!

]]> By: carolinegrey http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/comment-page-1/#comment-3109 carolinegrey Tue, 19 May 2009 09:54:32 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1577#comment-3109 Oh, a most excellent post. Thanks for this. And I love how you teased out that the cane "taught me is how to get through those times when “it just hurts,” and get a mental/sexual satisfaction from them, even as I physically suffer through them." That's an important distinction--the different ways of "taking" or absorbing pain in a scene. I hadn't really thought about it before, but I think it may have been similar with the cane for me. I tend to think it has something to do with the limited, formal context of a caning--maybe it provided some kind of structure for containing the pain. I am not sure. But I'm sure going to have fun thinking about it! Oh, a most excellent post. Thanks for this. And I love how you teased out that the cane
“taught me is how to get through those times when “it just hurts,” and get a mental/sexual satisfaction from them, even as I physically suffer through them.”

That’s an important distinction–the different ways of “taking” or absorbing pain in a scene. I hadn’t really thought about it before, but I think it may have been similar with the cane for me. I tend to think it has something to do with the limited, formal context of a caning–maybe it provided some kind of structure for containing the pain. I am not sure. But I’m sure going to have fun thinking about it!

]]> By: Zille http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/comment-page-1/#comment-3103 Zille Mon, 18 May 2009 16:37:34 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1577#comment-3103 Eliane -- well, I don't love the pain every time the cane strikes me (heh, the times it's more a physical turn-on than a physical agony to be gotten through are really in the minority!) ... it's just that the cane taught me how to get turned on even when it just plain hurts, no masochism to the rescue! <hr /> Paul -- Aww, go on! You know how to flatter a girl! ;) And you know I agree fervently with you on savouring it as often as is possible and safe! Eliane — well, I don’t love the pain every time the cane strikes me (heh, the times it’s more a physical turn-on than a physical agony to be gotten through are really in the minority!) … it’s just that the cane taught me how to get turned on even when it just plain hurts, no masochism to the rescue!

Paul — Aww, go on! You know how to flatter a girl! ;)

And you know I agree fervently with you on savouring it as often as is possible and safe!

]]> By: Telling it like it is | All Things Spanking http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/comment-page-1/#comment-3101 Telling it like it is | All Things Spanking Mon, 18 May 2009 13:03:24 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1577#comment-3101 [...] wicked, yet sought after, implement. I encourage you to link to Zille, and read her entire post at: http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/ SHARETHIS.addEntry({ title: "Telling it like it is", url: [...] [...] wicked, yet sought after, implement. I encourage you to link to Zille, and read her entire post at: http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/ SHARETHIS.addEntry({ title: “Telling it like it is”, url: [...]

]]> By: Paul http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/comment-page-1/#comment-3100 Paul Mon, 18 May 2009 12:01:52 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1577#comment-3100 Zille, such wisdom from one so young. :) Still I think that caning a woman that both fears and yet loves it, and loves and trusts the one who administers it, is an experience to be savoured, as often as is safe. :) Love and warm hugs, Paul. Zille, such wisdom from one so young. :)
Still I think that caning a woman that both fears and yet loves it, and loves and trusts the one who administers it, is an experience to be savoured, as often as is safe. :)
Love and warm hugs,
Paul.

]]> By: Eliane http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/comment-page-1/#comment-3099 Eliane Mon, 18 May 2009 11:30:19 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1577#comment-3099 I love this description: "A caning hurts. Quite a lot. It’s a white-hot slash of pure pain that shocks you upon impact … and then builds up and up until you think you may go crazy. And then, when it’s died down to the point when you are thinking that maybe sanity is an option again … the next stroke comes slashing down…! And it’s the hottest, hottest thing in the whole wide world." I think my issue is, I've never quite learnt to love the pain, still working on that! On the other hand, even though I don't welcome the pain, being caned still turns me on, big time :-) I love this description:

“A caning hurts. Quite a lot. It’s a white-hot slash of pure pain that shocks you upon impact … and then builds up and up until you think you may go crazy. And then, when it’s died down to the point when you are thinking that maybe sanity is an option again … the next stroke comes slashing down…!

And it’s the hottest, hottest thing in the whole wide world.”

I think my issue is, I’ve never quite learnt to love the pain, still working on that! On the other hand, even though I don’t welcome the pain, being caned still turns me on, big time :-)

]]> By: Zille http://www.zilledefeu.com/spank/the-cane-what-you-really-think/comment-page-1/#comment-3098 Zille Mon, 18 May 2009 07:16:37 +0000 http://www.zilledefeu.com/?p=1577#comment-3098 Silly Graham! It says you're a pervert, like me! Welcome to the club! :D Silly Graham! It says you’re a pervert, like me!

Welcome to the club! :D

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