I’m as responsive as I can be, so I’m sometimes better and sometimes worse at it! But if one puts up a blog, its basically saying one wants to share something with the world … so I think it behooves one to respond to the people who take the time to read what you wanted to share, and have taken the time to write to you about it!

I don’t think I ever saw the “Dominate my wife” blog. Feel free to share any favorite bits by sending them to zilledefeu at gmail dot com.

I’ve been meaning to ask you if you ever saw the fabulous but short-lived “Dominate my wife” blog from Mike and Stephanie in Australia? Sadly it’s no longer up, but I did keep a copy of much of the content, which I’d be happy to share with you if you haven’t seen it already.

When you ask good questions like that, you leave me no choice but to respond to you with an entire post: nothing less would have done your questions and my answers justice!

Again, you hit the nail on the head. The fact of the matter is that I fantasize about being disciplined and punished, and my Master gets a much harder erection during real punishment than during playtime.

But when reality hits in the form of a hard paddle blow, no, I’m not enjoying it in that moment, even as a masochist! There’s something about paddles that keeps me from getting off on them, even as I do from a cane or tawse.

So before the punishment I might be turned on, but during it I’ll just be gritting my teeth and trying to comport myself with as much dignity as possible (which won’t be much!)

Afterwards … right afterwards, I might just be overwhelmed with the release of tension and guilt from whatever I did wrong. If I am aroused, well, what better way to end the punishment than for my Master to order me to attend to his needs, and then leave me hot and bothered to think about why I do not want to screw up that way in future….

Later that day, or the next day, the memory of the punishment will be as hot as anticipating it was, for me. But that’s why I’m a pervert, and that’s why I’m interested in all of this stuff in the first place. It’s only been in the past few months that I’ve come to accept that about myself and learn to see that it’s not a problem — at worse it’s something we have to work around (my masochism) but at best, it’s the thing that first drew my Master and me together, and why we are so right for each other. We are just amazingly lucky that we get to have our cake and eat it, too!

I love every time you write about Mel! Your love for her overflows from your words! Your comments to my posts make my blog a better one — I cannot thank you enough!

I don’t think you and Mel missed out on much by not being Master and slave. In the end, they are just words, and it sounds like you two had something that transcended mere language.